We all have to do it and it sometimes really sucks. The dating world can be one of great glory or one of absolute suffering. It just depends on the type of person you are looking for and how you go about doing that looking. Sometimes it's better to not even go looking for something that you may not find. I've had good luck and bad luck when it comes to dating. Lately it has all been bad and I've been hurt by guys. It doesn't make it any easier to learn how to trust people when you keep getting hurt but you have to know that just because one person hurt you it doesn't mean the next one will. That's why we all date. We date to go through those experiences and ups and downs. We also date to really learn what we want in a partner.
I always say that I want a partner who is going to have a steady job/career. I want someone who is going to be able to take care of me. My ideal guy is definitely not overweight. I can deal with a guy who is average weight but I prefer much closer to athletically toned. I am a huge sports fan so I get along really well with guys who can talk about sports. That's the main reason that I prefer athletic men because I am used to guys who are built a certain way. I definitely am not into super scrawny guys. To be honest that is a complete turn off for me. One of the guys I dated recently posted that girls should wise up and realize that the guy who looks like an athlete is probably the biggest dick on the block and he's a nice guy. Well this is what I have to say to that. My brother was a State Championship football player and he is built like an athlete...does that make my brother a freaking dick?! HELL NO. You can ask my brother's girlfriend and she will tell you he is the greatest man in the world. You know why because he LOVES to spoil his girlfriend and get her flowers and take her out to nice places for dinner. He is a very successful pharmacist. I want a guy like my brother and if I find one I will know that I am a very lucky girl.
My other requirements for someone that I could end up having a successful dating term with are that they have to be able to have intellectual conversation. If that means I can't date someone who doesn't have a good education or doesn't care about education so be it. Education is important to me. I will be honest I probably didn't have the greatest grades when it came to college but I tried my hardest because getting a college degree was EXTREMELY important to me. To be able to say that I am a college graduate is something that I am VERY proud of. I can't date someone who can't hold an education conversation with me about what is going on in the world or who doesn't sound educated.
Also, I may not be a person who goes out to church every Sunday but I do believe in God and my faith is very important to me. I pray at night for my friends and family and it's part of what keeps me grounded as an individual. When something in my life is not going the way I think it should I look to God and ask him for help with what to do. When my friends are going through a hard times I ask him to be there for them because I believe in the power that he holds. I look forward to the day that I can meet him face to face in spirit. There are so many questions that I would want to ask him. I've tried dating someone that didn't really care one way or the other about God and it was extremely difficult for me. I do want to have children one day and my children will be taught about God and Jesus. Once they get to a certain age it will be up to them to decide what religion they want to choose but I will introduce religion into their lives and I need to be with someone who understands how important it is to me. I can't be with someone who is going to mock me for believing in God.
I've spoken on this blog before about having Celiac Disease. While people may not understand why that would be a factor in the dating life it is. Having that means that my diet is extremely restricted. I can't eat anything that is derived from wheat. So I can't have things containing wheat, barley, rye, and some other things. I can't drink Whiskey which I really miss being able to do. I can still enjoy alcohol but only certain kinds. I need to be with someone who will be understanding that when we go out we can't just go anywhere to eat. Having Celiac Disease means a lot more extra planning when going out to eat or when traveling to different places because I need to ensure that I am going to be able to have things that I can eat. It also means that once I do become a wife and mother my household is probably going to be gluten free because Celiac Disease is not just something that develops over time. It is a genetic disorder and that means that there is a chance that my children will end up with the same thing.
Dating is all about learning what we want and what we don't want in a partner. Don't get discouraged when things don't work out the way you want them to. Don't give up just because the person you thought was what you wanted ended up to be something you didn't want. Keep your head up and get back out there. There are plenty of men and women out there in the world. Also, don't shut yourself off to someone just because they may be from a different culture or follow a different religion than you do. You have to be open to new things when you are dating or you could miss out on something that may end up being the perfect one for you.
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