Be beautiful in this skin

I read an article today that has me really concerned and sad for this world we are living in. What ever happened to women or people in general being happy with what God gave them. Plastic Surgery is becoming such a trend anymore and it really is terrible to see. Spending thousands and in some cases millions of dollars to alter ourselves to look like someone else. What message does that send the young generation of females? It certainly doesn't send a good one or paint a good picture to the rest of the world about American Women. The message that sends is oh well if you aren't happy with the body you were born with just change it. Girls at 18 years old asking their parents to give them money for boobs! Hello at that age you are still GROWING meaning your chest size is not even where it probably will end up being. Breasts grown and change every day depending on the way you carry your fat when you gain or lose weight.

Now we are having a trend of people having foot surgery to fit into shoes that they can't fit into. Here is a rocket concept why not just buy another pair of shoes that your feet actually do fit into. That saves you a whole hell of a lot more money! Are women really becoming that vain that their looks mean more to them than their health or comfort? Are we really a society now that judges you based on what the fuck shoes you are wearing on your feet?! Well I don't give a shit what shoes I wear as long as I am comfortable in them. If you have a problem with my appearance than you are obviously to shallow and vain for me to even want you to be a part of my life anyway. I personally find it sickening that women are going to that extreme length to actually shorten or lengthen your toes to fit into a pair of shoes! Shoes are manufactured to fit us not the other way around. Our feet are not manufactured to fit them. 

It's a really terrible thing to see that the world is becoming like this. You should all just be happy that God gave you a body to live in. Yes I say a body to live in because otherwise your soul would just be floating around with no body to inhabit. Be happy that he gave you life and be happy with the body he gave you. No one is going to look the same and that is part of the beauty of life. That we are all different in our apperance and personality. Better than than all of the women looking like stepford wives who are just robotic and creepy. I admit that I have my days too where I look in the mirror and am not always happy with some things but I would NEVER pay someone to make me look like someone else or change it. There are other ways around it. You don't need to look like Jessica Simpson to get a man's attention. In fact some men don't even like that kind of woman. 

That whole you have to be tall, blonde, big boobed in order to attrack a man is a bunch of bullshit. Yes I can say from experience when I go out with my friend who in fact is all of those things I notice men pay less attention to me but when I go out on my own men pay attention to me. I work in a job where I see a lot of business men every day and they always are complimenting me about my brown curls or my smile. There is no one perfect look for a woman to have to acheieve. The idea that you have to look like a barbie doll to get attention is fucked up. As long as you are a nice girl and you display confidence you will find a man out there that is going to see you as the most beautiful thing in the room. Men are attracted to confidence most of all. If you walk into the room like you own the place that will catch their eye. If you walk in with your head down like you want to just be invisible to everyone around you than guess what to them you will be. 

Anyway that is my rant of the day...have a lovely weekend everyone

XOXO

I am beautiful...

This is probably the most personal thing I am ever going to put out there on the internet. Because most of you don't know me I won't release names but I want to share my story. Watching this movie called Cyberbullying on netflix made me empowered to write this. 

I have been in those shoes. I have walked into a building and knew people were talking about me. I've had that moment when people all the sudden just stop talking when they see you so you know they were saying something about you. I've gotten the glances and heard the snickers. I know that there were rumours being spread about me that were not true. I know all of this because for every snicker or glance there were good people around me that were honest with me about it. Those are the people that even to this day I still am in contact with because they were good people. 

I have been in that state of mind before from being bullied that you just don't have any strength to go on. You think how can life possibly be this cruel to you and why do you have to be the one to suffer through it. I've had some people I considered friends being among the people who were contributing to the rumours and the bullying. In my high school there were those that were popular and those that were picked on. I was not in the popular category because I made a choice that I wasn't going to exculde people from being my friends based off of their wealth, their sexual preference, or any other stupid thing that high school kids judge others on. 

In this day and age it is so much worse because anything can be said over the internet. Cyberbullying is a HUGE problem in this country. It's easy to be cruel when you have a computer screen to hide behind isn't it? I know I've said some things on the interent that I ended up taking down or deleting because they were really mean. I am sure we all have had those moments. What you need to think about is how what you say about someone affects them and everything around them. What happens when what is said on the internet starts to follow you around? Suddenly what was once maybe some cruel internet prank becomes real. Words do hurt when they start becoming actions. When you start to hear the same mean thing being said about you over and over again. 

There are steps you can take to protect yourself from it. If you are on a social media site and someone starts offesnively messaging you almost every site out there has a block function. All you have to do is click on that button and that person can no longer say anything to you. If you don't want to have anything spread about you than don't give them any ammo. Don't post provocative pictures or anything else that could give them a reason to start saying stuff about you. People are going to talk because it is part of human nature but it's up to you to be smart enough to know when it's appropriate to respond. If you hear something about someone that you know than stand up and say hey that isn't true. It's also very easy to just go along with something instead of standing up against it. That's why they always say there are leaders and than there are followers. 

If you are being bullied please just remember for every person that is saying mean things about you there are plenty more people saying wonderful things about you. For every person who may not like you there are plenty who also do. People aren't always going to like you but in the end does it really matter that much? Does being liked really have that much of an impact on who you are as a person? If you are the best person that you can possibly be and have family and friends that love you shouldn't that have a bigger impact? You are the only one that can control how you react to situations. Revenge is not the answer because that only makes things worse. Suicide is not the answer because that hurts more than just you it hurts everyone who cares about you. 

When people bully you it's because they want to get a reaction out of you. The less you react to them the less they are going to want to do it. That is what they are looking for. They want to see someone react to their bullying and see that they are having an effect on someone. Please if you were bullied or know anyone who has been or is being bullied talk to them. Let them know that they are not alone. Share your stories with them so they know you have been through it to. Stop bullying now before it becomes worse than it already is.

Secrets

We all keep our secrets. There are things that we don't tell anyone. Not even our closets friends or our significant others. When people ask about them we simply smile and deny anything that they suspect. The question is when do those little secrets or lies become the truth? The more that you live in hiding who you really are the more you become the person that you probably don't want to be. Instead of lying about what really happened just admit to doing it. If you did wrong than own up to it because the guilt will end up eating you alive. I've done some things in my life that I was not proud of. I kept secrets that shouldn't have been kept and lost friends over it once the truth finally did come out.

Heck I will go so far as to say in college I became the person I didn't want to be. Hiding who I really was deep down to be in with a crowd. Going out every weekend night drinking. Doing things that were not true to who I really was. Once I left college I never looked back. I got rid of friends and kept some. So when I say it happens the more you pretend to be what you aren't you become that.

Some of us live in the lie that keeping secrets from people protects them. It doesn't. Lying to them and keeping something from them only makes them that much more upset when the truth comes out. Truth ALWAYS finds a way to come out so you are better of saying the truth right from the get go. I want people around me who are going to be brutallt honest and if I look like shit will tell me I look like shit. If you want people around you who are fake and only tell you what you want to hear than be prepared to be hurt a whole heck of a lot of times.