Is there even such a thing as taking a "break"

When people are starting to drift apart in a romantic relationship and are struggling to figure out what the next steps are, Is it safe to say that a break is necessary?; Or does a break only prolong what seems to be the inveitable...that the two of you have drifted and are better off apart. Some relationship seem to survive only when the break is breif, limited to a few weeks or a month tops. I have a relative who took numerous short breaks from her boyfriend and they are now engaged and getting married next summer. 

However, this is not the case for many if not most relationships that a break is initiated. In most cases a break simply is saying I'm not sure if I really want to be in a relationship with you anymore but I'm not ready to break up completely. They just need some time to figure out what they want and usually figure out how exactly to end the relationship without being too hurtful. I say instead of initiating a break just fess up to how you are really feeling. If you are unsure of whether or not your relationship is sustainable then stop trying to make it sustain. Just say that the two of you have drifted apart or lost sight of the original attraction that was there and move on. It is okay to fall out of love with someone and it happens quite often.

I personally don't believe in taking a break because I think it's just a sorry excuse for saying I think we have drifted apart. I agreed to a break once and by the end of the first week I was thinking in my head I am over let's move on. By the 2nd week we had spoken and said it was in the best interest to move on from each other. Yes it hurt because some part of me did love him but I knew that our relationship was headed nowhere and we weren't going to be able to fix that. In my mind there is no such thing as a break. You are either together or you aren't. 

Taking a break is something kids to when they are in middle school and early years of high school, not something two adults do when they are in an adult relationship. An adult relationship is very cut and dry either you want to be together or you don't there is no "well I'm not sure if I want to be with you so many we need some time apart" that's crap. I understand there are different circumstances in every relationship but most cases of "taking a break" end in a complete break up.

Love hurts and there is no other way to say it. Sometimes you could love someone so much and when they stop loving you it literally feels like a piece of you is gone. Even the most loving relationships where people are happy can hurt sometimes. That's unfortunately just how the world works. Just because one relationship has ended and you feel broken it doesn't mean you are always going to feel that way. 

There are plenty of people in the world and there are plenty of chances to find someone else who you will love. I don't believe in such a thing as having one true love. I think that in your lifetime you will have many loves until you meet the person who you are going to be with for the rest of your life.

My thoughts on sports fans

Fans of sports come in many different shapes, sizes, colors, and most of all personalities. One persons favorite team is not the same as another persons. That doesn’t make them bad people it just means they like different teams. There is nothing wrong with that. It is part of what makes loving sports so exciting.

When it crosses the line that’s when it becomes a problem. We all have our own opinions formed about different players and teams. No one will share the same opinion. However, just because your opinions may differ it does not make the other person right or wrong; nor does it make them an “asshole” just because they like or dislike a certain team or player.

There are fans of every team who are ignorant and disrespectful at times, it happens. Those fans though do not equate to the masses. Just because a group of fans may boo someone or cheer when a player gets injured; doesn’t mean all of them do. Some of us do know how to have class when it comes to sports.

That being said is it really that difficult to understand that when you insult someone’s favorite player or team they are going to react unfriendly? The beauty of a sports fan is the passion and love they have for their team. If you attack something that someone else loves and has a passion for they are going to give the same hostility right back at you. If you can’t handle the heat than stay out of the kitchen as the old saying goes.

Accept it for what it is. Sports fans are passionate, loving, crazy fun people and that is what makes them awesome.

when life throws you lemons...

A few months ago my life threw me a huge, sour, lemon and ever since then everything is different. I had been getting sick and my legs were starting to go numb. That was the first sign that there was really a problem that had to be taken care of. After going through one doctor and multiple expensive tests that later were found to be completely useless and unnecessary I went for a second opinion. That second opinion from my current doctor who I trust saved me from probably ending up in the hospital.

All my life as a little girl I grew up loving to eat pasta, pizza, cheesy garlic bread, breaded chicken, etc. However, there was the occasion that I would feel completely and utterly sick to my stomach afterwards. The pain would be so unbearable it often times led me to go to the school nurse while I was in school. My parents just brushed it off as something that was all in my head as many parents do when their kids start to frequent the school nurse. Then as I got older we thought maybe it was lactose intolerance because of the cheese on the pizza. I have always had a sensitive stomach and it just seemed like at the beginning of this year it had gotten worse.

It turns out that I have Celiac Disease, it is still being learned about but it is a lot more commonly diagnosed now than it was years ago. There are also a lot more options out there now than there were when they first started figuring out what this problem really was. It is not officially termed as an autoimmune disease but technically according to most doctors it is. Celiac Disease is a genetic malformation where your body does not produce the gene that it needs in order to digest wheat, barley, rye or similar things. Basically yes all forms of pasta, breads and things like that are out of question for us to be able to eat. I have family members that have it and I was just the lucky one in the family to also be diagnosed with it. It's a simple blood test diagnosis however, be prepared because it is a very expensive blood test.

I'll admit that when I first was told that I had to change my entire diet it hit me pretty hard. I cried for about a week straight every time I would see people eating things that I used to love eating and couldn't eat anymore it was hard. I'm very lucky that I was diagnosed in a time that they are making much more options for gluten free people. There are actually some very good varieties of gluten free pastas and breads. I have found that Bostons Gourmet Pizza makes a very delicious gluten free pizza that has not once made me sick because they prepare it specially. It took me a while to start to really accept that I had to change my eating habits around if I wanted to have a healthy life. Every now and then I still get upset watching others enjoy things that I can no longer enjoy. Yes, I was a beer drinker and a Whiskey drinker so it's been very hard on me not to be able to enjoy those things when I go out with my friends.

I'm lucky that I have a great family and great group of friends who have been very supportive. They have all made sure that they take the right measures when it comes to having family meals or going out to dinner that they think about my diet. It's a much  more expensive diet too because of how gluten free foods have to be prepared. At least I can still have my grilled chicken breast and potatoes. There are a lot of ways to turn non gluten free recipes into gluten free recipes with the right ingredients. They make gluten free flour that you can use for cooking and baking and they make gluten free breadcrumbs if you enjoy your fried chicken...cause I certainly do.

What upsets me is that some people think of this as just being some kind of diet fad that the country is catering to when that is not the case at all. There are people that absolutely have to follow this diet in order for them to stay healthy. Celiac Disease will kill you if you do not get diagnosed and do not change your diet. It eventually destroys your intestine and then you will go into organ failure. That's why it's important if you have it in your family history and you start having symptoms that are similar to get checked. I know that my children if I have them in the future have a chance they could be born with it too. What people don't know is that sometimes it doesn't present itself by causing you stomach pain. Mine didn't, mine presented by having peripheral neuropathy like symptoms where my legs and arms would go numb and tingle. People with Celiac Disease do sometimes also have peripheral neuropathy as a secondary symptom. Please don't be ignorant in thinking that restaurants and companies are making gluten free foods and menu options to cater to some dietary fad. They are doing it because it is a health issue and they are trying to cater to all of their patrons.

I've accepted that this is my health and it's never going to be changed. This is something that I am going to have to deal with for the rest of my life but it could be much worse. I am still very blessed that I only have a small problem and not something major like one of my best friends has to deal with. It's a pain in the butt yes but it's my only option to live a healthy life, follow a gluten free diet and everything will be fine. I know deep down that God only throws at a person enough for them to handle. He won't throw at you more than your capable of overcoming. I have a great support system around me for when I do have those moments of frustration.

Accepting the blame

We see it happen every single day of the week. Someone does something wrong and instead of just accepting the guilt they make up an excuse or try to blame it on someone else. No one else forces anyone to do anything. At the end of the day we all have the choice to do what we know is right or to do the wrong thing. When you make that choice and you get caught just freaking own up to it...Mr. Rodriguez. 

No one made these baseball players take illegal drugs. They all made that choice on their own terms. For the most part the ones who got caught accepted it. He is the only one and the one who did the most wrong, that is filing an appeal. He claims he is trying to save his life. Well maybe if you wouldn't have decided to cheat your way through your career by doing drugs you wouldn't have to go through all this crap. I never in my life will understand why athletes, singers, actors...etc who have been give  everything would throw it all away for freaking drugs. ARod is a joke in the world of baseball anymore and he is the only one responsible for his career falling apart. He made the choice to use a ban substance and got caught. So stop acting like the freaking asshole prick you are and just own up to it and admit it. Don't sit there and try to play the innocent card when everyone knows you aren't. It's like lance armstrong all freaking over again.

People wonder why I can't stand the Yankees. It's because players like him give that team a horrible name. There are others on that team I can't stand but he is by far the biggest jackass on that team. It's a wonder he is divorced cause I certainly don't think I'd be able to put up with being married to him either. 

Aside from the a rod stuff this rings in true for all of us. If you do something wrong don't lie about it or try to hide it just admit that you did it. You will feel a lot better if you just say I fucked up. People will understand if you made a mistake cause we all make them. I make them every day about something.

Backstreet's BACK!

So earlier today I read on the internet of someone complaining about the Backstreet Boys putting out a new album. What is wrong with them putting out a new album?! They are together 20 years and what better way to celebrate than putting out a new album which is sure to be a chart topper like all of their other albums? Then said person proceded to say something about why are 30 year old men trying to copy One Direction...Uhhhh more like One Direction is copying them. One Direction has already said they are fans of the Backstreet Boys and have looked at them as inspiration. The Backstreet Boys are the best selling boy band in history. They were the ones that were out long before One Direction probably before some of the members of One Direction were even old enough to know what the hell a boy band even was. Guess what their album only one day after release is number 3 in the US and I guarentee by the end of the week it is going to be number 1. It already is in Europe and Japan. The other difference is One Direction fans are there right now they may not be there later. Backstreet Boys fan base has been there from the very beginning and is still there now. That says a lot about the attachment their fans have to them and their music. Their music is going to withstand time and you can bet on that. Years from now people will still be talking about the Backstreet Boys can you honestly say the same about One Direction, or the Jonas Brothers or any other boy band that is out right now...probably not. I don't even think One Direction is going to make it that long. My personal opinion of their new album and I have listend to every song. It is the same old BSB that all of us fell in love with 20 years ago. Their music is yes more grown up but remember so are they. All boy bands will change their lyrics and style as they get older. It happens with age you start writing about different things. These men have families now so it's expected that they would write a song about children. That is my rant for the day. Long Live BSB!

I'm back

It's been a while since I have been on blogger. I run sports blog on a different website but this one I'll use strictly to rant and rave about things that I see or hear that cause my opinions to come out. This first blog is about something that is a very real issue to me. I saw online the other day about a man complaining of all these restaurants switching over to gluten free. Said man complained that it's stupid that they are doing it just to cave into some dietary fad. Just because it is becoming a popular thing it doesn't mean every single person that is on a gluten free diet is just doing it because of some fad. Actually it started not as a fad if you had any knowledge or even cared you would know that.

I am one of those people that has to eat gluten free and I don't do it by my own choice. I do it because I have no other choice if I'd like to live a healthy and fulfilling lifestyle. I was diagnosed with Celiac disease months ago. Put yourself in the shoes of the other thousands and yes there are thousands of people all of the world that suffer from the same thing. Imagine growing up your entire life eating all the pasta, bread, etc that you want to eat and then one day being told that you can't eat it anymore. That it is slowly killing you because that is what happens if you don't follow the gluten free diet. Celiac disease is not a fad and it is not a joke. If you don't follow the strict diet it will KILL you there is no question about it. It will eventually kill your small intestine and your body's ability to absorb nutrients and then guess what it will lead to organ failure.

When people like me that have been used to eating and drinking whatever we wand are suddenly told they can no longer do that it makes it extremely difficult on us to go out with our friends and our family to any restaurant. So personally I think it's great that so many restaurants are offering gluten free items to make it easier on people with Celiac to go out to eat and actually be able to enjoy themselves. They did not do it because of some stupid dietary fad they did it because it is a health condition that is effecting a lot of people and those numbers are rising every year. Imagine what it was like before they knew what it was and people were diagnosed with it and didn't have the options that they have today.

It affects thousands of people and mostly those that are from Northern European descent. So yes there are Italian's who are diagnosed and told they can't eat the food they were raised on. According to my doctor it is actually because there is a gene that mutated in Europeans that people who have the ability to digest gluten have and those of us that have Celiac disease are missing that gene. There are gluten free restaurants and places to eat all over Europe because that is where this gene mutated from. So if your heritage is Northern European there as a chance that somewhere along the line in your family someone is going to end up with Celiac disease. The numbers are currently 1 in every 133 people have Celiac. That is not a small amount of people when you consider how many people live in this country alone.

It's not something that a lot of people chose to do its something they HAVE to do. It's hard enough as it is to be gluten free but to have people say things like that it really rubs me the wrong way. That is what is wrong with this freaking society they wonder why American's got the nickname "ignorant American" the guy that said that is the perfect example.